J Lo made it look so easy!

In the Wedding Planner that is. Many people thank my career is glamourous and easy. But it is HARD and I mean really hard to be a wedding planner. I am not even going to try and deny that. Is it fun? Yes. I love it. I am totally addicted. I am one of those planners that eats, sleeps, and dreams, weddings. I get up up in the morning and have all sorts of new ideas to share every day.

When I talk to a bride and I say, "I am so excited!" I am not kidding- I really am. I genuinely am excited and passionate about every wedding I work on. You have to have a passion for it. A passion for planning your own wedding does not mean you will have the passion to plan 15 weddings at the same time, with 15 different personalities, mothers of the bride, tastes, and styles. So I wish that there was a wedding tv show that showed what this job is really like. I think so many people would be surprised.Is it worth it? Absolutely!

Trash the dress?

Interesting idea... but what would Vera Wang think? Trash the Dress, you say? It's exactly what it sounds like -- following the blessed event, the bride straps on that gorgeous dress once again for a final farewell photo to the gown she spent a fortune to wear for one day only. We all know our daughters won't wear our dresses, so trashing the dress sounds like a great idea to me.

These so-called Trash the Dress photos have become all the rage with brides who want to add something unconventional to their wedding albums. And unconventional they are -- particularly the photo at right in which a bride has set her wedding gown aflame, a la Joan of Arc. This shot was taken by a photographer named John Michael Cooper, who coined the phrase Trash the Dress. If you want to see more of his edgy, arty wedding photography, check out his website, which chronicles his collection of Trash the Dress wedding photos. A recent bride of mine decided to trash her dress buy jumping in the pool with her new husband. Even better than that her whole family followed suit. What did you do with your dress?

K&J- October 12, 2008-Private residence

Some pictures . . .

It's over for me!

Wedding season that is! At least for me. Yesterday was the most fabulous wedding I have ever designed, and for the most fabulous family. I love them dearly. Words cannot express the feeelings I feel for that family. Tears were shed by me many times, hence the getting of the "L"monogrammed tissues. They weren't all for you Kate!

Yesterday was the culmination of an awesome season, what better way to end the season but working with the best ofthe best. The best bride & groom, the best florist http://www.mokaraflowers.com, the best photographers, Hitched Studios, great caterer Sonoma, www.sonoma-princeton.com.

For me-highlights

• the bride, kate saying "I have never seen anything like it ever, even in a magazine"
• the bride's brother (whom I have never met) in the lounge tent-" You are so good at what you do, this is amazing"
• MOB (mother of the bride) jumping up & down, ecstatic, with the final reveal as she saw it for the first time

This wedding was not only my baby, it was my entire inspiration for the entire year. A dream wedding in the backyard, what could be better. I had a vision, ...from that first e-mail from the bride, which I saved and will treasure always "HELP!!! I want to get married at home" At home she got married, at home we created the wedding of her dreams.